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Dog Whisperer Training Secrets | Training Stay

“STAY” is NOT a command in dog training

I know,most folks think it is. But its not (i’ll get to that in a minute). This concept is very important for dog owners to learn. Learning this will change the way you interact and train your dog forever- for the better.
dog-training-secretThe behavior of having a dog remain in one place is, indeed, very important for dogs to learn, especially for their safety. We all agree on this. What has been confusing is how to obtain a reliable- ‘remain in one place until i say you can go’ (a.k.a STAY)-from your dog.

Stay is not a command. People *think*
its a command. They’ve been taught it’s a command. But It’s not. It’s not a ‘stand alone command’ as most have been taught. It must be paired with another behavior such as ‘Sit-stay’, ‘down-stay’, or ‘stand-stay’. Right?

Training a dog to “STAY” the old way is confusing.  In the past when you told your dog to stay how long were you expecting him to remain in one place? For 15 seconds? 1 minute? 3 minutes? Were you training a consistent time for “Stay” or did you want your dog to “stay” until you told him he can move about, or did it just depend on the situation? When your partner or spouse told your dog to sit-stay,or down- stay what did they expect? What about your children? Chances are good that each person who told your dog to “Stay” had different lengths of time they expected your dog to remain in one place. Chances are they also didn’t ‘release’ them from the ‘Stay’ every time, or allowed the dog to decide when he wanted to get up. That’s the problem with the “Stay”. Its ambiguous. At least how most the word/phrase/command.


The implicit ‘Stay’-
The clearest way to train a reliable ‘stay until released’ is to train STAY as part of the Sit or Down, or Stand command. When you train your dog to sit UNTIL released the ambiguity of how long a stay is supposed to be is gone. Your dog waits until being “released” from the sit or down. It’s simpler, easier for the dog to understand, and easier the family to train and execute as well.

Training the implicit “Stay” yields dependable, consistent behavior. Now you’re only training your dog to do one thing (sit or down) until you tell him he can go. Training this way yields dependable results, a more attentive dog and less frustration for both the family and the dog.

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Dog Training: The Best Collar for Controlling a Hyper Dog

First there was Barbara (Woodhouse) then Uncle Matty, then David (Dykeman) Then… Victoria (Stilwell), Now Cesar. There’s also your friend Jenny who has a marvelously well behaved (notice didn’t say well trained) dog “Puck”.. The wonder lab who miraculously brings back anything, absolutely anything you toss, throw or hurl on land or into the water. There’s also your Uncle who had a dog that seemed to know exactly what you Uncle wanted and sat waiting patiently until your Uncle gave “the” command or even ‘the look’ that signaled the dog to do/get something amazing… So many ‘experts’ so many well behaved dogs.. Except maybe yours..

You would like, ok, desire, ok crave a well behaved, trained dog so you get a book, or manyDog Training Collars books; “Cesar’s Way: Be the Leader of your pack..” or “The Art of Raising a Puppy” by the New Skete Monks, or “ 7 Days to housebreak your dog (Revised Edition). You get a clicker, you get a remote control, then you get a choke collar until you find it doesn’t work well so then you get a pinch collar. You hate how it looks (you refuse to ‘pinch your dog to train it) so you get a different type of choke collar one that advertised to “Make your walks with your dog as easy as power steering”… 

And it all gets you, well…. More confused. 

You get a dog harness. Looks great on the dog in the advertising picture until you find its more difficult to put on your dog than doing Origami and writing Haiku’s simultaneously. Then your friends friend recommends a head halter, you know the one that looks like a muzzle – you hate how it looks- but you think, “ok, I watched the video and it Works like a hot knife through butter- amazing- until you try to put it on the dog. How do normal people do this? You have to have a calm dog to get one of these put on- you blurt out to yourself.  After all if you need a calm dog to utilize one of these then you wouldn’t need this device for controlling out of control dogs. Oh the craziness of dog training contraptions!

So, what is the best device for controlling a dog? Well, as dog trainer I love, absolutely love questions like this. Short answer: It depends. Real answer: If there was THE answer then we likely wouldn’t be continually asking the question the answer would be as obvious as breathing air is to most living creatures. “What should I use then to control my dog” well it depends it really depends. Unfortunately a specific behavioral  ‘symptom’ does not usually equate to one answer. Calling your doctor asking for a prescription when you have a sore throat may seem like the logical thing to do. The good doctors know that all symptoms (insert specific dog behavior here) do not always equate to the same treatment.  So the best solution to a specific dog ‘problem’ is to consult a professional dog trainer. Not just any dog trainer but a trainer with  behavioral training expertise. 

More tomorrow with: “Finding a good dog trainer. What should l expect”